read this, it'll help, but won't fix anything

Something from my Pema Chodron book 'When Things Fall Apart' (not to be confused with the Chinua Achebe book 'Things Fall Apart')

"... There has to be some kind of respect for the jitters, some understanding of how our emotions have the power to run us around in circles. That understanding helps us discover how we increase our pain, how we increase our confusion, how we cause harm to ourselves. Because we have basic goodness, basic wisdom, basic intelligence, we can stop harming ourselves and harming others. Because of mindfulness, we see things when they arise. Because of our understanding, we don't have to buy into the chain reaction that makes things grow from minute to expansive. We leave things minute. They stay tiny... It all comes through learning to pause for a moment, learning not to just impulsively do the same thing again and again..."

Ah, Pema. How did you get to be so smart?